How To Move Forward Anyway
Updated: Jun 11, 2020
Fun Fact: that's me in the picture. Hiking Grinell in Glacier National Park. Looking like a #magestic badass.
OK, so here's the big stuff that's happening right now.
I created a video interview series, out of the blue, called UNCONVENTIONAL.
I'm interviewing some incredible human beings, from all walks of life, about how they moved forward despite being scared shitless and despite loads of external pressure saying 'not now, not ever.'
Their stories are meant to inspire others, like yourself, to MOVE FORWARD and make those BIG CHANGES that you're terrified to start. I want to show you that yes, you can. And you can, even now.
Until the videos start dropping (and trust me, you're going to want to watch them! so be sure to subscribe at the bottom of the page), here are some concrete, actionable things you can do to go from hovering on the edge of big change, scared shitless, to actually taking the next step.
1. TREAT IT AS AN EXPERIMENT
Erin Baker will talk in her interview about how her experience pursuing a PhD taught her to look at the big scary changes she wanted to make in her life as an experiment.
Exploring outcomes and probabilities as if this is an experiment immediately creates some emotional distance. For those with anxiety, or if you're just feeling the TOTALLY NORMAL fear that comes before taking action, this can be immensely helpful. Anxiety tends to lead the brain to believe that the change you want to make could be life or death.
Treating it as an experiment brings perspective and objectivity back into play.
2. WHAT'S THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN
Instead of dismissively rolling your eyes at this, what if you actually considered the activity seriously? Actually ask yourself, "what's the worst that can happen?"
Sit with it. Explore it fully.
Then ask yourself, what's the likelihood of the worst case actually happening?
It could be (if often is) that the worst thing that can happen is not actually all that bad.
Facing the worst case, the thing your brain wants to use as leverage to convince you NOT to do this big scary thing you want to do, in advance gets it out of the way.
It takes away its power.
If you've already faced it, felt it, and determined that it's not that bad, or that it's still worth risking, then you can move forward more confidently.
3. WHAT IF IT WERE FUN AND EASY
Ask your brain this question: "What if this was fun and easy?"
What would that look like? What actions might you take? What would those actions be?
This brings an immediate sense of lightness to the big scary thing.
Smile, and ask yourself, "what if this was fun?" then play!
4. WHAT IS THE BEST POSSIBLE OUTCOME
What might be possible if you DID move forward? If you DID take action? If you DID go after what you want?
Imagine yourself in this future state. What's life like there? What feelings do you get?
If you did this thing, this thing you're scared to do, what would life look like on the other side?
If you're going to torture yourself by coming up with all the reasons why this is a terrible idea, why you might fail, why it's terrifying, you may as well grant yourself the gift of looking at the other side of the coin.
What are the BEST possible outcomes?
5. TAKE ONE, TINY STEP
Sometimes, we work ourselves right up to the edge of what we perceive to be a giant leap.
Is there any way to break it down?
Are there tiny tiny tiny, 100% easy and achievable things you could do that will get you closer?
Write them out. Then tackle them.
6. ASK FOR HELP
You don't have to do this all by yourself.
You don't have to figure it all out on your own.
You don't have to take that leap into the unknown without support.
Reach out. Ask questions. Ask for what you need. Ask for help.
As always, I got you. I'm in your corner.
I have a history of making BIG CHANGES in my life, despite being terrified, despite friends, family, society, coworkers, and my own body and mind telling me that I shouldn't.
I've seen what's possible when you work through the fear and get to the other side.
I've seen what it's like to be able to live life the way you want to.
You can have that too.
When you're ready, contact me.
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